Monday, April 20, 2009

Biggest Block to Change

Why are we able to easily change some things and not others has intrigued us to the point of creating a whole self-help industry to answer that question. We have all made decisions or reacted to changes beyond our control with absolutely no problem. We just did it. So what is the stumbling block to the changes we want to make but can't seem to do?

Perhaps it is two simple words that create the block. Those two words are "I am". I am fat, I am stupid, I am no good at ....., I am ....? Whatever we say to ourselves and others is what we are because it is a belief we have created for ourselves and no one knows us like we do so, it has to be true and  thus we build our beliefs on who we are and how we function in this world of ours. It really is about our reality and only has to make sense to ourselves.

Perhaps the solution to change is simply deciding that "We are" something different and train ourselves to live that way just the way we taught ourselves to live the way we no longer want

Your thoughts?

51 conversations:

Sandee said...

I am beautiful, I am happy, I am rich beyond money. I so relate to what you are saying Peter. We are what we think we are. A tough thing for many to change.

Good to see a post from you. I think of you often and wish the very best for you and the mistress of the house.

Have a terrific day. Ear scratches for Cleo and a hug for you. :)

Peter Haslam said...

Thanks Sandee :)

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I agree with you, OUr thing about what, will became to you if you believe this.

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Thanks a lot, Sandee

NZVel said...

Cheers Sandy!

Pearl said...

Hi Peter

Hope all is well with you.. It's been eons since we talked and not seeing a post by you here got me concerned....

hoping to hear from you!


Pearl

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The power of self-talk should never be underestimated. I agree with your perspective 100%. We become what we think about the most, and what we say about ourselves the most. A whole industry within the self-help industry has been established off of this one principle--think of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)--it's just a fancy way of saying "You will become what you think and say the most". We really need to be mindful to only speak what we want, not what we don't want. Good stuff.

Peter Haslam said...

Hi Pearl
Having problems geting set up on intenet at new location. Hope to have them resolved shortly so that I can get back to blogging. Good to hear from you

Katie said...

Really made my day, Sandee :)

Sam said...

Hi Pearl, Sam here, guess it's a small world after world.

Oh, and hello, SAndee

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Very touching one!

Thank you for sharing and keep posting!

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That perhaps is the main reason (refusal to change) why many self-help gurus, books, and strategies are so saleable these days. We must grow to completely eradicate the need for these.

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Thank you for the great post. Really appreciated :)

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Hello Peter,
A good advice. Self esteem is the first thing to get self confidence. We become what we perceive.

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Sandee said...

Hi Peter - Long time no hear from. I hope all is well in your world. :)

beauty leeds said...

i've found inner calm and peace is the best enabler for change, once you have found that through relaxation treatments and techniques, the rest will fall into place

Tania said...

It's so hard to change the way you think. I've had some rough periods in my life, but although I managed to get by, I'm still stuck with some beliefs and feelings I can't get rid off and I can't even admit in front of somebody else. I found I kept pushing people away, just because I assumed that they had the same opinions about me as I had, But I was lucky enough to find someone very special that didn't let me go and showed me the truth about myself. It's very hard to change all by yourself, and it's more hard to open up in front of someone else. But if we do manage to do this, we can win so much...

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"I am" expression is typical for a western world, as well as "we are" is common for eastern mentality. It is not about egoism more about collectivism and individualism.

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sam said...

Hope all is well with you.. It's been eons since we talked and not seeing a post by you here got me concerned....

hoping to hear from you!

mike said...

not everyone knows what merka want, most confused what steps they should take, or whichever comes first. we can not not be able to bear it all alone, at least we should tell someone. share .......

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Beautiful article for the reading, writing interesting, it really does Mike not everyone know what they want in life but at least we have hope to change the direction of a more well.thanks

sarong said...

You will become what you think and say the most". We really need to be mindful to only speak what we want, not what we don't want. Good stuff.
Sarong

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