Many of us think that there is a perfect path of choices that would successfully give us everything that we desire and beat ourselves up for once more making a poor choice that we are currently painfully receiving the results of.
This decision of ours that we have once more missed making the perfect choice of actions now colors our perceptions for making future choices and we can often lose the opportunity of a choice due to not being perfectly sure of the result.
Where does perception of perfect choice come from?
We look at successful people and automatically assume that they are successful because they made perfect planned choices from conception of idea to final result. Nothing could be further from the truth. Every success has portion of it which when examined consisted of luck, timing, cooperation of others, opportunity, etc. which could not be controlled by the individual.
Perhaps then there is no escape from making mistakes as it is a natural part of being human and we are cannot have total control over all things impacting our lives and our choices. Then we could stop being afraid of making mistakes.
Your thoughts?
Monday, November 2, 2009
No Escape
Monday, July 23, 2007
Mistakes and Imperfections
We may have at sometime repaired or built something. It may be a patch in the ceiling from a leak, a touch of crazy glue for the sole of a shoe or built a deck for the house. But it wasn't perfect and we can see the patches or mistakes.
They stand out to us as if there is a spotlight on it for all to see and we are sure that everyone else can see them to. We can treat mistakes we make in our lives the same way. Certain that everyone can see them and are focused on them.
When we start to think like this then it is time for us to go and look at houses that are made of bricks. When we first look at the house we think that it looks great. We admire the appearance and the color and think that we would like a house like that.
However close examination will find one, two or five bricks that are not perfectly aligned or exactly the same shade of color. No matter how long we look we will not find one perfect house.
Those imperfections and mistakes give each house a uniqueness all of it's own. Shouldn't we treat our mistakes and imperfections the same way?
Your thoughts?
Friday, July 6, 2007
Overcoming Mistakes
We have learned that mistakes are negative while we were children at school and as we joined the work force. We are allowed learning mistakes as long as they are not repeated or don't cost to much. This is an attitude that assumes we could have prevented them through better thinking or planning.
But what are mistakes?
They are usually things that we only understand in hindsight as being errors in thinking as we failed to predicte future events and actions prefectly. It is only when we accept those errors as somehow being preventable that we can feel we have screwed up. Yes, we want to prevent major errors in judgement whenever possible as is sensible. But to try and eliminate all mistakes is not possible.
We should understand that mistakes will be made and realize that they will be part of making any change. Then when we make one we can adjust immediately and continue rather than having it stop us in our tracks as so many times it does.
Perhaps we should consider mistakes as a natural part of living and not blow them out of proportion when we make them as we will.
Your thoughts?
