Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Personal Realities

We really do live in our own unique reality made up of our beliefs, assumptions, emotional content, and mental viewpoint. Because of this we usually take everything that happens in our reality very personally. Every time we get angry, sad, happy, and so on; we are taking things personally.
When we want to make changes it is often our personal reality that becomes our greatest hurdle to making the change we want. Therefore, there can not be a lasting change without altering our personal reality; often, in the form of perception.
For example, if we are constantly upset, angry or sad then we have a gap between our personal reality (perceptions) of what should happen and what actually happens. As reality rarely adjusts to our perceptions then we must adjust our perceptions in order to change our personal reality. Perhaps we are taking things that happen as we live from day to day as being very personal and therefore triggers our emotional response when in fact it was never personal at all.
Our assumptions are our choice and can changed by ourselves and bring a closer match between our expectations and reality and lessening a great deal of our emotional turmoil.
Would be interested in your thoughts on the subject.

4 conversations:

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

At times I do take things personally that weren't personal at all. Indeed our perception and expectations rarely mirror reality. This is a tough one for many including myself. Add hunger, being tired or not feeling well and you have a whole new twist on this.

Great to see a post from you Peter. You are in my thoughts often. Good karma always coming your way. Best regards to the mistress of the house. :)

Peter Haslam said...

Thanks Sandee it has been a while and your support is appreciated. Cleo says Purrr

AR, Insurance Planner said...

Hey, great artcile about yourself. I never took it that way til now. And after reading your comment i think that there were many at times when I was wrong. Thanks for sharing this information. Keep bloggin. Great.

Peter Haslam said...

I find AR that I am rarely right when I take things too personally. Reflection usually shows me that my perception was not perfect and then it becomes very easy to let it go. thanks for joining the conversation.