Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Childish People

The last few posts have been on the subject of anger which most of us have some difficulty in dealing with. This post continues with another viewpoint on anger before leaving this topic for a while.

Have you noticed that some people are almost continuously angry on a day to day basis. Someone or something gets them angry and when we examine their almost tirades about situations that anger them we find that there is a lack of compromise and consideration for others at the bottom of the issue.

It reminds anyone who has been a parent of their children in the preteen years. They are unreasonable whenever they don't get their way, cannot see any other than their own perspective, do petty and viscous actions in retaliation, or go off and pout about the injustice of the world.

Sound familiar? If so then remember that there is no point in getting angry with a child with this nature as it just aggravates the situation. Sometimes imposing penalties or totally ignoring them are the only ways to deal with them.

Dropping down to their level should not be one of your options because then they control you.

Your thoughts?

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25 conversations:

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

I know a few of these folks. They are indeed difficult to be around. I'm happy to say that sometimes I have trouble not getting angry, but for the most part I'm a very happy person. Very well said Peter, especially the not letting them win part. That's enough to put a smile on one's face. Have a great day. :)

Peter Haslam said...

makes it easier to deal with them sandee when you have this perspective :)

Nature Nut /JJ Loch said...

Great post! I believe people who are angry all the time have unresolved issues from their past they need to deal with. If you don't love yourself, you have no room for others.

Love the kitty photo. :D

JJ :D

Peter Haslam said...

Thanks nature nut from Cleo

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anger is something that a lot of people need to tame.. it's easy to get angry even on little things.. but anger is controllable...

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Anger can become very ingrained in some people. My now ex-husband brought a lot of anger toward others into our marriage. Though he was not angry at me it become the thing which got between us and split us up.

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

Hi Peter...Haven't heard from you in a bit and just wanted to check to see if all is well. :)

Jenna said...

I agree that it is often better to ignore people like this rather than to argue with them. When you run out of options, sometimes you have to just walk away from a situation.

Good post!

Peter Haslam said...

A few rough times sandee thanks for asking :)

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

You are in my thoughts and prayers Peter. Is there anything I can do? I mean that. Just ask. :)

Peter Haslam said...

Thanks Sandee appreciate your offer very much. Health issue that I just have to tough out. Will keep you advised. :)

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

Okay Peter. Hubby and I are both concerned. You have become a very good friend. I know you know that, but it needs saying none the less. :)

Lil Wayne Remix said...

You have to acknowledge people's anger before you can defeat it. Good post.

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

Was thinking about you and decided to swing by and say hello. Hope you are better. You remain in my thoughts and prayers Peter. :)

Peter Haslam said...

thanks sandee :)

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Dropping down to their level is definitally not the way to deal with them.

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

Hello to you and Cleo. You remain in my thoughts and prayers. Big hug. :)

Den said...

True. Tell that my mom, she could never understand that..

bige said...

That sounds like a lot of effort, I can understand how it is. =)

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Sandee (Comedy +) said...

Just checking in. I hope things are getting better for you. I think of you often. Miss you terribly as well. :)

Ms.Relief said...

This is a perfect post for the adults of childish behavior. If a person overcome the anger, he would be the nicest fella' in this world.

Keep writing up the good info. Take care!

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I find that on any given day there are a few certain people who generally can cause you to have what was a happy day turn into a miserable one. It's unfortunate that these types of trolls exist. Best is not to react in the angry way they want you to but it is very difficult at times when the person drives you nuts with stupid conversations about things that needn't be so argumentative.

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

Hi Peter. Just swinging by to say hello and I'm hoping things are better. Miss you. Scritches to Cleo. :)

Peter Haslam said...

Should be back soon Sandee Cleo says Hi and thanks :)

Anonymous said...

this is exactly what i am facing now with a friend. i do agree that ignoring that person is the best way out. i am too tired to even try to explain things or start a fight.