We seek to control our circumstances as much as possible to guarantee the future we most desire. The results of our actions to have control prove over and over again that we cannot succeed in this task. The reason is both simple and profound.
Nothing ever remains the same. Oh we can have the illusion that this is not true but that is only our own desire for those things we want deluding us. If we cannot really control anything then what is there left to give us hope.
Remember that the goal does not define the how to achieve it but only to be able to recognize opportunities that arise for working towards it.
The only thing we can control is ourselves.
How we act, how we think about things, what emotions we allow to rule us and how we express them. What beliefs do we wish to follow and express in our actions? What kinds of relationships do we want and how we treat others? All these things are within our power to change through our choice of actions.
When we understand what we do and do not control then perhaps we can have a clearer vision of what is important to uphold and what we should let go of.