Pain is a warning of something wrong whether physical, mental, emotional or spiritual. It is meant to make us pay attention to what is going on to prevent further damage. Pain however is also something we can twist into shackles.
We can use pain is a prison to be kept alive as a penance for a wrong we have done or believe we have done long after it should be over. We can dwell on it until it becomes our constant companion that we feel we deserve.
When we do this it is no longer a warning but a real danger in itself. It does and will continue to color our world through eyes of pain. No one can remove this from our lives but ourselves. It starts with the realization that everyone makes mistakes.
Some mistakes are created when the outcome we expected did not happen and we ended up with results we never anticipated and perhaps hurt someone we cared about. So we feel guilty as if we should have known better and decide we need to keep the pain alive to remind us. A heavy and sometimes lifetime sentence.
We need to acknowledge our mistakes, learn from them and above all forgive ourselves for being human. For some an impossible task.