Sunday, August 12, 2007

The Price of Pain

Pain is a warning of something wrong whether physical, mental, emotional or spiritual. It is meant to make us pay attention to what is going on to prevent further damage. Pain however is also something we can twist into shackles.

We can use pain is a prison to be kept alive as a penance for a wrong we have done or believe we have done long after it should be over. We can dwell on it until it becomes our constant companion that we feel we deserve.

When we do this it is no longer a warning but a real danger in itself. It does and will continue to color our world through eyes of pain. No one can remove this from our lives but ourselves. It starts with the realization that everyone makes mistakes.

Some mistakes are created when the outcome we expected did not happen and we ended up with results we never anticipated and perhaps hurt someone we cared about. So we feel guilty as if we should have known better and decide we need to keep the pain alive to remind us. A heavy and sometimes lifetime sentence.

We need to acknowledge our mistakes, learn from them and above all forgive ourselves for being human. For some an impossible task.

Your thoughts?

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Shine said...

Pain is always regarded negative and we can spend our lives avoiding pain. Yet, pain is indeed essential element of our lives for it indicate to us whether anything has gone wrong.

And, come to think about it, staying away from pain may not be the best strategy - esp. when pain could be exaggerated - we can give up great opportunities if staying from pain is our top priority.

zunnur said...

As human beings, we tend to regret after doing something which we don't want it to happen, and we sometimes tend to keep it as a pain that keep on reminding us of the past mistake. If the pain becomes our "constant companion", it may lead us to stress and depression. I agree with you that "We need to acknowledge our mistakes" and I think that one good way of getting rid of the pain is to say sorry and shake hands, if we did something wrong to somebody.

Comedy + said...

Oh this is so true. I have a problem with this one as you know. I still think of things that I could have done better and relive the pain. Not as bad as I used to, but still do. It just won't change a thing...Not one little thing. Have a great day Peter. :)

Peter Haslam said...

Right on the money Shine the fastest way through pain is acceptance which diminishes it's longevity

Peter Haslam said...

Yes Zunnur once we have accepted it as just part of life then we can deal with it properly

Peter Haslam said...

Yes Sandee beating ourselves up and giving ourselves punishment does not change what has happened. We use the lesson to change how we deal in future similar situations. The best that we can do

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Ed said...

Mrs Ed is having a similar dilemma at the moment with something she has invested herdelf in, not working out as she had hoped.. I read your post to her and she smiled, but it may take a while for the truth and the solution to settle in.

Peter Haslam said...

A smile is a good response Ed and thank you for letting me know