Redefining Success

We struggle with success and what it means to each of us and can find it difficult to put into words. You know what I mean seems to be a common ending to our discussions on the subject. We can talk about feelings, goals, accomplishments, and so on and come no closer to what we mean by success.

It is different for everyone when we get right down to it and it can cause us a lot of grief, heartache, sleepless nights, you know the symptoms as well as I do.

Perhaps we are approaching this the wrong way. What if we reversed the questions we asked of ourselves and others. What if we talked about failure and what that is to each of us. Would we get a better answer to consider.

If we were to say that failure is not trying and that no person is a failure who has friends could we get rid of the burden of finding success and perhaps get on with enjoying our life in the midst of constant change.

Your thoughts?

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Defy the Obvious

 

Why do some people seem to defy the obvious? We can see that their situation is hopeless and yet they act as if it is not a fact for them. Are they blind, stupid or mad? They are certainly not rational.

Some people are happy in situations that make most of us shudder at the thought of it happening to us. Terminal illness, disability, low income, war, disease, starvation, and the like. We can't see how it is possible.

Some admittedly in those situations give up and shut down while others struggle on day by day. What makes the difference? What makes some people carry on defying the obvious?

They defy the obvious not because they are certain of eventual success but rather because trying gives them hope and without hope life is just a living death.

Your thoughts?

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Time Travel

If you could go back in time what would you change that would have meaning for you. Would it be an opportunity that you missed or a relationship that you would have pursued. We can imagine a lot of situations that if only we had done something different then our life would be so much better today.

Time travel is a fantasy that a lot of people indulge in from time to time. Interesting but an absolute time waster. When ever we indulge in this fantasy we are living in the past with what if scenarios rather than dealing with what we have right in front of us.

If we are living in the past or future then we miss seeing the opportunities existing right in front of us that we can take action on right now. It is our actions in the present moment that creates our life regardless of circumstances.

Where else can our actions affect our future other than right now.

Your thoughts?

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Risk

It is easy to take risks when there is little a stake. We can remember starting out in our first career move or business venture. The downside of our attempt was really minimal. In most cases we were young and felt we had lots of time should it not work out. We had no kids or marriage to worry about and not a lot of money at risk.

Sometimes we were fortunate and our risks paid off and we embarked on other challenges which were also successful. Others were not successful. In both cases we could end up stopping the taking risks.

What happened?

The more successful we are the greater our potential loss and so we could end up looking for the sure thing. The more failures we had would result in the same dilemma that is looking for the sure thing.

We need to realize that there is no such thing as risk free. It doesn't exist. We need to know what our risk threshold is and accept that. Not everyone is cut out to take high risk and there is nothing wrong with that.

Knowing our risk threshold allows us to make better goals that we will strive for rather than waiting for the perfect score which will never arrive and would guarantee our having an unhappy life.

Your thoughts?

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