Saturday, January 31, 2009


We can tend to believe that the choices we make could be temporarily made and undone by making another choice later on. Another perspective could change how we think about choice. Borrowing from the magical realm of fantasy we could call choices more appropriately as gateways that magically appear to us whenever necessary.
This would occur whenever we stop to ask ourselves a question:
Is there a better way?
Do we like the results we see in our life?
Why are others treating us this way?
Do we want to accept that offer, relationship, deal, etc.?
In short anything that makes question what we are doing.

Gateways seems more appropriate as once we have passed through the gateway of our choice then life can never return to what it was. Gateways could lead to paths that are harmful to us or good for us or appear to make no difference but in all cases it is a change in direction in our lives and should not be made blindly, in fits of anger, to punish others or ourselves.

We have the freedom to step through the gateway of our choice and by calling it a gateway rather than choice recognizes the importance of taking the right actions in our lives.

Your thoughts?

8 conversations:

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

Hi Peter. I never thought about choices as gateways, but it certainly makes sense. You are right though, once made life will never be the same.

It is essential to take the time to think trough the pluses and potential minuses before passing through a gateway. I've seen so many throughout my life that never seemed to think through the decisions they made. Then they would blame the negative outcome on everyone but themselves.

Have a terrific day. :)

Peter Haslam said...

Thanks sandee I agree that our life is defined by our choices and we should not make them in an absentminded way

mmo said...

our life is a reflection of our daily actions...gateways is a good term for it.

Wheel Covers said...

gates and choices are just the names of legalize the excuses of being independent in our life, even when we know that all the things are connected to each other in a pre-planned way. Its just you want to follow that path in a good way or in a bad way. The only thing that matter is decision.

Sylt Ferienwohnung said...

We are free to choose our own "gateways". Rather than seek refuge to every wrong done, why not seek change that will be of great benefit to all.

Ernie Small said...

it seems to me that calling all choices "gateways" would put too much importance on each choice i make. perhaps this is because my problem isn't taking choices too lightly in life, but rather fretting over them too much.
however, if i had the opposite problem, i would probably fully embrace your metaphor....

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bidet spray said...

That's a nice take on choices. I'll give it a try on my next decision :)