One of the most difficult things to do is to stop thinking that we are special. You know that others should automatically know our wants and needs and should make sure that they don't trespass on our boundaries.
We might say not me but think about it. When someone is loud and interrupts us when we want quiet what do we think. That they have no consideration or respect for us. If others continue to pursue their own objectives instead of ours what do we think.
If we cannot convince others what do we think about them. When we are hurt by the actions of others what do we think. It can be a very long list that is generated by that thought that we are special.
This type of thinking leads easily to us taking everything personally because we think we are special but the bottom line is that we are not any more special than anyone else.
When we change our thinking to considering relationships and how we contribute to those relationships then our whole focus changes along with the results achieved.