Thursday, September 13, 2007


For some people worry is a constant companion in their life and for them seems to be something that they have to put up with like breathing. They can and do worry about their health, their relationships, their money, their future, their hidden desires and of course those things they don't want anyone else to find out.

Worry can even become such a habit that when we don't have anything to worry about we will create a situation so that we can feel normal again by worrying. The first response we will get from some is that it is necessary to ensure that we anticipate problems so that we can prevent them or minimize them.

Is this true?

If we examine our worry we would find that it is a future event or a what if scenario. There are two things we can do with a future event: take an action right now to change our results or decide that we cannot take any action at this time due to timing or lack of ability to affect the results. In either case continuing to worry solves nothing.

We can only take action in the present moment. Nothing more.

Your thoughts?

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11 conversations:

Jeremy Jacobs said...

Reminds me of that wonderful Jewish joke:


"Start worrying, details to follow"

Peter Haslam said...

I like that one Jeremy. Well said

Vinod_Sharma said...

You are so right when you speak about the two things that we can do with a future event. The worry starts when we realize that we cannot take any action, for whatever reason, to effect the results, which we believe are not what we would like to see. Worry solves nothing, yes, but the thought of being 'helpless' is not one which anyone can enjoy or accept....unless there is positive surrender( not passive escapism)to a higher force , whatever name you give it.

Peter Haslam said...

Vinod helpless assumes that nothing can change which is not the nature of our world.

Monday Morning Power said...

I know people who create things to worry about just so that they feel "normal."....Just like you stated.

They need to learn to live in the moment; a very hard concept for most people to grasp.

Nice post.

Peter Haslam said...

Yes Monday Morning Power indeed difficult so much covering it up

Random Magus said...

I am an incurable worrier. I try not not be. But like you said if there is nothing to worry about I invent things. Whether it's grades or the future, I just worry all the time. I think I have become addicted to worrying, I just wish I could get of this see-saw of worrying all the time. It's draining.

Peter Haslam said...

It can be Random Magus which makes it an issue worth working on

Sandee (Comedy +) said...

I worry about some things now and then. I try not to worry about things I can't change and that sometimes works. Sometimes it doesn't. It is wasted energy and often the things we worry about never even happen. :)

Peter Haslam said...

Defintely wasted energy Sandee :)

stop sweating said...

Worry does cause health problems. If you start to worry about some thing almost right away you get a belly ache.
I try not to worry about life - "What will be will be" but some times that is easier said than done!