Some people are known to go to extreme lengths to keep their world unchanged. They may change friends when their friends change to improve their lives. They may live by a set of inviolate rules which no one may break. They may live a solitary existence with only acquaintances that never see the real person.
When we resist change to this degree then something sleeps within us. We might even restrict thinking about or paying attention to anything that might lead to change. We are frozen in our growth and all of the joy available in life is lost. We are in the twilight zone.
It is when we strive for things and embrace the change that creating anything gives to us are we truly living rather than just existing. In this view of life there are no failures just answers to what ever question we are asking of ourselves.
We can sleep while life passes us by or decide to accept change as an essential part of living. As always the choice is ours to make. Do we sleep or do we live.