We create our own reality for us whenever we decide to take something on faith. It will be some immeasurable thing such as love, God, spirits, or the like that cannot be seen, heard, or physically felt. We can and do determine what is real for us and only we can make those decisions.
If we choose not to believe in something then it is simply not part of our reality. Such is our choice and our responsibility and cannot or should not be given away to anyone else. We have many things that we take on faith even including no faith. We can choose to believe that there is nothing after this life. Again it requires faith and our decision.
If we think about all of the different things that we do take on faith is there any wonder that the total of all our beliefs create an unique self. That uniqueness means that no one else can ever totally appreciate who we are and what we feel. How can they?
Yes we can approximate what others feel but not everything that they feel and the intensity of that feeling. When we offer advice is it really realistic. Perhaps for a particular segment of their lives but not overall. We should remember this when giving or receiving advice and suggestions.
In the end the responsibility for our actions is ours. We should always choose according to our own inner compass and accept the results as our responsibility. We need to have faith in ourselves before anything else.