Thursday, April 26, 2007

The Value of Unpleasant Feelings

For a long time I never used to see the value of having unpleasant feelings. They were something to get rid of even to the extent of ending relationships or changing activities. Yes, I had definitely bought into the feel good philosophy. Then I would wonder why I end up back in the same situation over and over again. 

Has this ever happened to you?

The problem is that we can focus so much on getting rid of the unpleasant feelings in any way possible as we feel they serve no purpose that we develop habits of ignoring the feeling or trying to find pleasure  through excessive drinking, eating or other activities that usually end with feelings of guilt or remorse. The problem hasn't gone away; we have just buried it in a shallow grave.

Unpleasant feelings such as anxiety, fear, pain and discomfort are unsettling but essential to our living a quality life. They are a call to action we should heed because it signals a gap between who we think we are and how the world sees us. The result we got did not match our expectations. We then have an opportunity to learn from our results; if we choose to, and change our behavior and get better results.

Be thankful for your unpleasant feelings for they are your inner guide to a more fulfilling life.

14 conversations:

Random Magus said...

hey - unpleasant felings are essntial to our survival coz we would never know how good, 'good' felt if we had never felt bad.

Ed said...

Good post, and on the money. Healthy pain is good.

If someone says "I am depressed" then as far as I am concerned, that is good and healthy and they will get over it.

If someone is suffering from depression, however, that is different because that is an illness and to get over it requires medication and counselling. Not so healthy pain.

Peter Haslam said...

Yes random magus feelings are a personal range from good to bad. If we leave it at that then we miss an opportunity for improving the quality of our lives.

Comedy + said...

It wouldn't be life if we didn't have some bumps in the road now and then. Life hands you things that can bring you up or down. It's how you deal with them. I get your point about using other things to substitute...Food or booze, or. You are absolutely right. It doesn't work. I know this first hand.

Excellent as usual. I always feel good when I come here. Thanks for a safe haven in cyberspace. See you tomorrow...

Peter Haslam said...

I think comedy+ that most people have at some point. It's value is in pushing us to better ways to handle our disquiet.

Peter Haslam said...

Thanks for your input Ed

Mimi Lenox said...

"Ideas create our future...." Yes, and so it will be with Peace Globes. I couldn't have said it better. Thanks for participating in BlogBlast For Peace. I can't wait to read your post for June 6th. Your insightful blog will surely be well.....insightful.

Peace,
Mimi Lenox

http://mimilenox.blogspot.com

Peter Haslam said...

mimi it is a great idea and i am glad to support it

Empress Bee (of the High Sea) said...

i always thought i was a wysiwyg (what you see is what you get), i really think i pretty much am... well pretty much, ha ha.

smiles, bee

Cynthia Blue said...

When these unpleasant feelings are disproportionate to the situation, or off the scale, then they are not good. Yes we all need them to survive. But we need them in healthy doses. :)

Peter Haslam said...

Bee and Cynthia blue both good comments and welcome additions to the conversation

Comedy + said...

I'm with Mimi...Can't wait to see what your post is on June 6. See you Sunday :)

Peter Haslam said...

Thanks comedy+ and safe boating

erp said...

yup this sometime happen to me~ thanks for this info.keep it up