Flexibility

A lot of people are in a perpetual planning mode. They always have something on the go. It almost becomes a comedy skit as they bounce from one plan to the next without persevering any plan to completion.

It is almost like they are afraid that if they truly pursue a plan they will fail to accomplish it and so dodge the bullet by shifting to a new plan. Plans are really a guide of intent rather than a series of concrete steps leading to the goal as we are never sure of what we will find as a result of our actions until we have done it.

Every step usually has unintended consequences which requires that we adjust within our guidelines and choose our next action based on those results. That is why plans are guides rather than step by step instructions.

When we learn to be flexible on the how we accomplish what we want the more likely we will achieve the goal but in a very different series of steps that we could have imagined when we started.

We need to be as flexible as children are to what is actually going on in our lives.

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Mental Bubbles

When we think about it we cannot even possess ourselves as each moment changes us. Our mind, body, spirit, and emotions are ever changing from moment to moment. Nothing stays still.

If we cannot possess ourselves then we really cannot posses anything. We coexist with an ever changing environment, with other people and life forms that are constantly changing. What can we say is fixed and unchanging.

Yet some of us want the world to be unchanging and ignore what is happening around them when it is inconsistent with their mental world. They live in a mental bubble.

The worlds of our mind is our reality but we need to understand that only we live in that world and no one else can see it the way we do. Understanding and acceptance comes from realizing this fact and accepting others as they are; in their own dream world.

Communication is the key to having others understand us and we to understand them. Sometimes we have to realize that we need to give them an understanding of where we are coming from for acceptance of our ideas. Also that we need to ask them when we don't understand them rather than dismissing them out of hand.

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Doing Vs Wishing

We seem to always want more to be able to get out of life what we desire. Some of us want to be smarter, some richer, some want to be more decisive, more forceful, and so on. Almost everyone seems to have a shopping list of necessities before things can happen.

There are some things that we may or cannot ever have. Does that mean that we give up on our dreams as some do or exist in some kind of fairyland tale that we will somehow magically get those attributes we want so much.

No. It means we start from where we are with what we got and instead aim to do the best that we can with what we got. Sure we can and will learn things and gain new skills as long as we are willing to pay the price of time.

If we utilize what we have to the best of our ability we will do better than 95% of the people do in their lifetimes. It is all up to us and how we approach life with what we got.

We can wish or we can do. The choice is ours.

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Young in Spirit

We can find ourselves at times becoming tired of our circumstances of life and becoming embittered or disillusioned about our possibilities for change.

Yes we can become old physically and mentally as we see our opportunities appear to vanish along with our youth. Optimism becomes more difficult to maintain under the constant struggle we appear to be in by just living.

What we need to remember is that we may grow old in many ways but our spirit inside is still young and everlasting. Keeping in touch with our spirit is a source of constant renewal available to us at all times no matter the circumstances of our life.

It is in our darkest moments that we need to use the force of spirit to create change and renewal in ourselves.

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