tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post5334607151547301613..comments2023-08-29T03:31:53.228-05:00Comments on Necessary Skills: Hidden Triggers and ChangePeter Haslamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12540270073688574361noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post-22308935461532635742008-03-23T14:05:00.000-05:002008-03-23T14:05:00.000-05:00Well said linda and thanks for joining the convers...Well said linda and thanks for joining the conversationPeter Haslamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12540270073688574361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post-382624919620541572008-03-23T11:11:00.000-05:002008-03-23T11:11:00.000-05:00Figuring out what they are is the hard part. I hav...Figuring out what they are is the hard part. I have battled a weight problem for a long time. People always assume that it is from "emotional eating" and seeking out comfort. Actually- I have discovered the reverse is true and my disordered eating comes from a place of anger and self-sabotage. Thinking I ate for comfort and seeking healthy ways didn't work- knowing that I ate from not feeling worthy and eating to punish took me to a different place.<BR/>Figuring out the REAL trigger is the most important part of stopping the process.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post-57890374027969556502007-07-18T16:53:00.000-05:002007-07-18T16:53:00.000-05:00I would agree Jennifer. The battle is won in the m...I would agree Jennifer. The battle is won in the mind and heart firstPeter Haslamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12540270073688574361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post-80764581409846076232007-07-18T16:48:00.000-05:002007-07-18T16:48:00.000-05:00Hi Peter...I think the deeper, long lasting change...Hi Peter...<BR/><BR/>I think the deeper, long lasting changes occur deep inside. We can change the superficial but when our perspective changes, the external follows!<BR/><BR/>Nice!<BR/><BR/>JenJennifer Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post-53276752914364462242007-07-18T12:26:00.000-05:002007-07-18T12:26:00.000-05:00As go all of us Sandee. Just being aware will help...As go all of us Sandee. Just being aware will help to keep us on coursePeter Haslamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12540270073688574361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post-80680832657601298952007-07-18T12:24:00.000-05:002007-07-18T12:24:00.000-05:00Good point Camille and very valid. Keep sight of t...Good point Camille and very valid. Keep sight of the goal and handle exceptionsPeter Haslamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12540270073688574361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post-43839379829956590742007-07-18T12:23:00.000-05:002007-07-18T12:23:00.000-05:00Yes Lavender intent is keyYes Lavender intent is keyPeter Haslamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12540270073688574361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post-90036700033359576592007-07-18T12:22:00.000-05:002007-07-18T12:22:00.000-05:00Keeping habits is fine Paisley but if you decide i...Keeping habits is fine Paisley but if you decide in the future to change then keep this post in mindPeter Haslamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12540270073688574361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post-12182507830104556352007-07-18T10:20:00.000-05:002007-07-18T10:20:00.000-05:00Well, this is an interesting post. Just over two ...Well, this is an interesting post. Just over two years ago I quit smoking. I will say that it was one of the toughest things I've ever done. Now I had tried to quit many times before and never succeeded. Sometimes it worked for a week and sometimes I didn't make it through one day.<BR/><BR/>The last time I replaced my "best time to smoke" times with other things. I loved to smoke first thing in the morning, right after I ate, while in the car, or with a cocktail. So, these were the critical times. I replaced smoking with other things. Go for a walk after dinner, play a game, exercise, etc. Do I still want a smoke? Sometimes and I know that I am one smoke away from smoking full time. I chose not to smoke. My guess is I will have this urge off and on for the rest of my life. Excellent post Peter.Sandeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785788498697004273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post-22391763971110985372007-07-18T07:13:00.000-05:002007-07-18T07:13:00.000-05:00I don' usually handle them very well, lol! But I ...I don' usually handle them very well, lol! But I think whatever emotional state is triggered has to be dealt with first before we can really move on to the change we seek.S. Camillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12677965869844341756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post-6265712306351854842007-07-18T00:30:00.000-05:002007-07-18T00:30:00.000-05:00Hi Peter, Im especially bad a changes...but one th...Hi Peter, Im especially bad a changes...but one thing Ive noticed over time is the old addage "If at first you dont succeed: try, try again!" Sometimes sheer force of will can overcome, other times a changing of tactics till I find one that does the trick. In both cases, I find that my motivation has to be iron-clad if Im to see any positive results.<BR/>(Ive been reading by RSS feed lately, and appreciating your wise words.) Thanks for stopping by!Lavenderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00837170932026113619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3272071748941420694.post-32990769415573476862007-07-17T23:11:00.000-05:002007-07-17T23:11:00.000-05:00well peter,, i must admit,, the only way i have ev...well peter,, i must admit,, the only way i have ever dealt with any of that successfully is to move...the farther away the better.... any current habits i may have... i am evidently keeping,,, because i do not intend to be moving again.....paisleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08231453820728399262noreply@blogger.com